Ten Reasons Why You Don't
Have The Relationship You Want

1-Perfect Pictures
What does this mean? You have very set ideals and expectations about what a “relationship” should be like for you. Your “soul mate” must basically meet all your expectations, or in other words, be perfect.

2-You’re in love with the past
You keep loving, which means you keep energizing, giving attention to, thinking about, perhaps even hating, your past relationships. You consciously think to yourself, “I never want to have a relationship like the one I just came out of again!” but you end up with the same relationship again and again – only the face changes.

3-You try to change him
Women do this all the time. When we first meet a man, he’s perfect. After a little while we start wanting him to dress differently, wear his hair differently, act differently. You may not notice that you’re even doing this – but the man sure will, and will want to run! Why do you want to change him? Read reason #2!

4-Male Communication
I’m the man, I have to fix everything. Women like/need to vent. To a male, female venting sounds like “I have a problem.” You end up trying to fix a problem that never existed, which results in frustration and mis-communication for both parties involved.

5-Female Communication
Honey, can I tell you something? Many times when a female talks with a male, he feels like she’s placing demands on him. He feels pressured and trapped. The results will be fight, fear or flight. As a female, it’s important to learn how to lower your high amounts of emotional energy before communicating with your partner.

6-Two’s company, but three, four and five are a crowd
You have too many people involved with your relationship. When other people project their opinions and expectations into your relationship space it causes interference between you and your partner. This interference creates miscommunication. You end up trying to have the relationship everyone else says you should have, rather than nurture the one the two of you are creating.